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7 type pria yang sebaiknya dihindari para wanita

1,Pelit dan perhitungan
Seorang pria seharusnya bukan saja wajib melindungi pasangannya secara fisik.

Tetapi juga wajib membahagiakan dan memenuhi kebutuhan standar pasangannya.

Namun arti pelit di sini bisa jadi relatif.

Karena itu,nilailah pasangan anda secara proporsional.

Jika suatu ketika dia tidak mau membelikan anda sesuatu karena memang tidak punya uang, sudah sewajarnya anda maklum.

Tetapi itu dilakukannya karena malas atau dia sibuk membeli segala sesuatu hanya untuk dirinya sendiri, sebaiknya anda pikir2 dulu untuk terus jalan dengannya

2. Kasar
Siapa yang tak senang dengan kelembutan, apa lagi seorang wanita.

Memang laki2 memiliki fisik yang kuar, tetapi bukan untuk menyakiti seorang wanita.

Bila pasangan sudah bermain kasar sejak awal anda berhubungan, ini harus diwaspadai karena sikap kasar seorang pria akan menjadi suatu kebiasaan.

Apalagi bila sikap kasarnya merupakan suatu penyakit.

Biasanya, pria seperti itu hanya bisa menjadi beban dalam kehidupan anda.

3. Tidak setia
Pondasi dari suatu hubungan yaitu kesetiaan, kepercayaan dan tanggung jawab.

Sebaiknya anda pun menjadikan parameter ini sebagai salah satu poin terpenting dalam menilai seorang pria. JIka pasangan anda selalu berbohong dan menjalin affair, itu tandanya anda harus berpikir ulang, pantaskah dia anda cintai?

4. Bodoh
Rasa ketertarikan dan pola pikir seseorang bukan hanya diukur dari pintar tidaknya dia bergaul. Tetapi cara dia memandang dan menyelesaikan suatu masalah, di sanalah letak intelektual seorang pria. Karena itu, bila pasangan anda terlihat bodoh dan tidak bisa bersikap dan kekanak2an,sebaiknya anda harus siap mental untuk hidup bersamanya. Pasalnya, biasanya andalah justru yang harus membimbingnya kelak.

5. Tidak tegas
Ketegasan bagi seorang pria identik halnya dengan kesetiaan.

Kaum adammerupakan pegangan bagi seorang wanita, dan para prialah yang menjadi
kepala rumah tangga. Tetapi bila seorang pria tak memiliki sikap yang tegas, berarti pria itu tak memiliki rasa tanggung jawab kepada seorang wanita.

6. Egois
Mungkin sudah kodratnya seorang pria memiliki ego yang tinggi.

Sejauh hal itu masih terkontrol, itu bagus.

Namun jika sikap egoisnya itu justru mengekang dan membebani hidup anda, hendaknya anda mengevaluasi diri apakah cocok dengannya. karena anda pun berhak untuk hidup bahagia, lepas dari tekanan dan keegoisan siapapun.

7. Pemalas.
Seorang pria wajib menghidupi keluarganya.

Untuk itulah, aktivitas seorang pria sangat menentukan masa depan keluarga itu sendiri.

Karena itu,cermatilah pasangan anda apakah dia termasuk orang yang bertanggung jawab
dengan rajin bekerja. Atau sebaliknya, malas dan justru akan menggantukankan hidupnya dengan anda.

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Be more concerned with your character than your reputation,
because your character is what you really are,
while your reputation is merely what others think you are
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Breaking Bad Work Habits

How do your working ways measure up?
By Sharon Daugherty

What a day. You went into work excited about your forthcoming promotion and raise.

To your surprise, a co-worker received the title you were sure the boss had reserved for you.

When you approached your manager about the unexpected disappointment, you were told that your work habits for the past year were not up to company standard, disqualifying you for a promotion.

What Are Work Habits?
Work habits? What the heck does that mean? you wonder. Sure, you’ve come in around 9:20 as opposed to 9 a.m., but they know traffic is murder that time of day. And you’ve been reprimanded once or twice for getting back late from lunch, but everyone’s stood in those mile-long cafeteria lines.
And who knew your daughter would catch the flu and get sent home from daycare twice this month? Your reports are always on time. In fact, many times, they’ve been early, allowing you to take it easy at the end of the month.

These are thoughts that go through the minds of many employees who are surprised to find that their work isn’t as outstanding as they thought.
Work habits are a very large part of the overall performance of every employee. And even though you aren’t in elementary school anymore, your work habits are still being watched, still being graded, and, like in the story above, can still stop you from being promoted.

But what are good work habits? “It is so much more than completing tasks on time,” according to David Carter, a career consultant in Detroit,Michigan. “It is your workplace behavior, the very way you do things, from the time arrive at work until you leave, that demonstrates your level of professionalism, and your understanding of your employer’s standards of performance.” These things, coupled with your ability to complete tasks correctly and on time, is what increases your value as an employee.

Good Behavior
Here are some of the universal standards of good work habits.
How do your current “workplace behaviors” stack up against the checklist below? >

* Attendance and punctuality.
Be on time, or early if possible. If arrival times are a problem, try changing your route to work, eating breakfast earlier, or preparing your clothes on the night before. Take only your allotted time for lunch. Try not to take personal days on Mondays, Fridays, or whatever the busiest day is at your job.

* Personal obligations.
If your children are in school, try to arrange an alternate daycare source (grandparent or trustworthy neighbor) in case they get sick. Be sure you know your bus route to work, in case of car trouble.

* Relationships/communication.
Getting to know your co-workers creates a pleasant work environment.

Make an effort to plan or attend events, especially company-sponsored ones, with your peers.

* Teamwork.
The person in the story above mentioned the ability to complete assignments early, freeing up leisure time at the end of the month. If this sounds like you, try pitching in to see who needs help getting things done,or what other projects are waiting to be started.

Keeping Track
When you read this list, were you able quickly to assess your behavior, or did you have trouble remembering what you’ve done?
How can you find ways to measure your work habits and keep yourself on track? Here are some suggestions:

* Develop “co-worker habits.”
Find a peer in your company to help you monitor your daily habits.
Make an arrangement to alert each other to any displays of bad work habits you observe.

* Keep a checklist,
like the one above, and use it to keep track of days where you observe things in your habits that you don’t wish to repeat, or that could use improving. For example, if lateness has been an issue for you, keep a record of the times you arrive. Try some different morning routines and routes to work, tracking your arrival times for improvement.

* Be open and interactive when receiving criticism.
Don’t just walk away from a reprimand without input. Let your supervisor know that you are working on solving the problem.

* Find a mentor.
Ask for a meeting once a month to get their observations and to share anyconcerns you may have. Whether or not these suggestions can address your specific work habits issue, they are good ways to develop your level of professionalism.
You can set a standard for yourself that your co-workers and employer will appreciate. Before you know it, a new title will be waiting for you. But remember, after changing the way you do things gets you promoted, don’t break your good work habits.

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About the author:
Sharon Daugherty used to help people face career challenges as a College Career Placement Specialist. She now writes full-time on the topic of career development and works with individuals to plan their job search strategies.
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Loaf of bread

A loaf of bread fell from a bakery truck.

As it hit the pavement, a crumb broke off.

Three sparrows swooped down on the crumb and began fighting over it.

One bird finally succeeded in flying off with the crumb, the two others in close pursuit.

A series of frenzied arial maneuvers followed until the crumb was at last consumed by one of the birds.

The loaf of bread was untouched.
Only the crumb had seemed worth the fight.

If the birds had displayed more vision and less greed, they could have all been satisfied.

People, like birds, quarrel over trivialities.
In the heat of the struggle, life’s bigger, more enriching prizes escape them.
You can get everything in life you want if you help enough other people get what they want

- ZigZiglar

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